First published in Saltwater Girl 14.8 (December 2012)
Summer is the perfect time to indulge in a bit of holiday romance, school is out and so is the sun, the water is warm and the beaches are packed with gorgeous guys to ogle over. Yip, it’s the season of the summer fling and we won’t blame you if the words from the Grease soundtrack play on a loop in your head…
A summer fling can be anything from a random hook-up with a perfect stranger to the start of a long and meaningful relationship. Although summer flings are generally short lived, commitment-free affairs that end when the holidays do, many relationships that start at the beginning of the season last way longer than your tan does. You’re going to come across loads of hotties this holiday. Some will be players, some will be romantics and some will just be plain creeps. Question is how do you know which ones are which? Well, there are generally a few tell tale signs that give away the game behind the guy. We’re not trying to stereotype but here’s a list of potential love interests you are likely to run into this holiday. We hope it’ll help you find a summer fling worthy of its own catchy soundtrack.
THE SEXY SURFER
What would summer be without the dreamy surfers that populate the waves in the daytime and the clubs in the evenings? Tanned skin, sun bleached hair and generally laid back attitudes; these guys are 100% summer fling material. Problem is almost every girl on the beach thinks that. During the holidays surfers have easy pickings, every second girl who has come down to the sea for a vacation wants to hook up with one… for good reason. So how do you beat the competition? The easiest way would be to play it cool, these guys will be so sick of air-heads throwing themselves at their feet that they would probably really dig to have someone chilled to talk to and just enjoy the summer with. Don’t be a try hard, just ease into it. Surfers love talking about surfing, so ask him a few questions about the waves and once the conversation starts flowing you can start turning on a bit of charm, showing him that you’re not like the rest of the bimbos on the beach.
If you crack this you can expect romantic dawnie surfs, walks on the beach and private tours of the sickest spots in the area. Flings with surfers don’t generally last beyond the summer. Real life and distance are usually the culprits that break up these trysts, so don’t go into this thinking about the future, rather just live in the moment, enjoy each other and the ocean and take loads of pictures!
THE CRUSTY CREEP
Most local holiday destinations are likely to have a pub or club that you and your mates will jol at quite regularly. The majority of these pubs come stock-standard with a local creep who hangs out at the bar every night trying to pull as much ass as he can. You’re probably imagining a bald, chain-smoking middle-aged man… but that’s not what he’ll look like. These guys are generally in their mid to late
twenties, have a hottie factor of some kind and have spading chicks down to a fine art. They are usually drunk and more interested in what the inside of your mouth tastes like than learning your name (this is how you’ll recognise him). To guys like these, girls are disposable. He’ll attempt to charm you on the night but by the time the sun rises you’ll be nothing more than a drunken conquest. A fling is meant to give you butterflies; this guy will probably just give you lice.
THE FRIEND TO FLING SWITCH
During the summer you won’t have school keeping you busy all day which means there will be some serious hanging out with your mates going down. Often during these periods guy and girl friends make the switch from ‘just friends’ to a ‘friends with benefits’ situation or a full-on romance. If there’s a guy in your circle that you would like to get to “know a bit better” (if you know what we mean) now is the time to make it happen. You obviously already dig each other or you wouldn’t be mates, but if you wanna take things further you’ll have to turn up the heat. If he’s a really good friend it might be worth being straight with him – tell him you’re keen for a summer fling and see how he reacts. If you’re more like acquaintances show him, don’t tell him. The next time you’re out on the jol flirt your face off… if he doesn’t respond he might not share the same feelings as you. If that’s the case then don’t push it, you don’t want to make a fool out of yourself. It’s important to remember that every time a friendship is taken a step further you risk losing a friend if the romantic relationship doesn’t work out, but on the other hand you also stand the chance of sparking an amazing new relationship… you have to decide whether it’s a chance you’re willing to take.
Players are the same all over the world. They are smooth and sexy little bastards who know just what to say to a lady to make her feel good. They are everything you could want in a dude except one thing… they will never commit to you and if they did they would never be faithful. In real life we would discourage ever getting involved with a player, a summer fling on the other hand is a different story. A summer fling, in the truest sense, means maximum fun with minimum commitment, and if you are both aware of this no one should get hurt. If you take it easy, enjoy yourself and avoid investing any emotion in him, you will probably have the time of your life. This kind of fling is not for everyone but if it sounds good to you remember that if he’s allowed to play the field, then so are you.
THE REAL THING
It’s pretty hard to find something as blissfully simple as a summer fling, but one thing that does trump it every time is finding true love. What may start out as an innocent hook up might develop this holiday into a whirlwind romance. It’s easy to know if it’s the real deal; you’ll be the happiest you have ever been in your life, he’ll make you feel like the best version of yourself and being apart from him will feel like absolute torture. If the feelings are mutual and you’re both ready to commit, don’t let anything hold you back. It’s summertime and nothing beats being in love.